Think it’s impossible to date a taller woman without feeling awkward? Think again!
The arguments would rage for hours.
Everything would be fine until she’d pull a pair of heels out of her closet.
I’d hope and pray she’d wear some other type of shoes. Maybe she’d opt for canvas
My girlfriend was only slightly taller than I was. But when she decided to wear heels it wasn’t even close. Suddenly she’d be towering over me. Any feelings of manliness or confidence I had would disintegrate.
Once we’d leave her apartment I’d feel a wave of disempowerment wash over me.
I’d tell myself not to feel bad about it. I knew I had nothing to be ashamed of. Logically I knew there was no reason to be upset. She felt more attractive when she wore them. Who was I to tell her what shoes to wear?
But my emotions would override logic. I couldn’t contain my insecurities and the evening would turn from a fun and enjoyable one to a slugfest of animosity. I was embarrassed by the height discrepancy and I’d guilt her about it. Which of course was ridiculous behavior that only led to ugly arguments.
Why feel disempowered?
Normally I’d feel myself; completely comfortable and natural around her. Why’d that all crumble to the ground when she jutted up 4-5 inches above me?
I’d be paranoid that I was being judged by every person we’d walk past. Any person that was laughing was laughing at me. Any person pointing at something near us was mocking the gaping difference between my girlfriend’s height and mine.
Where did these feelings come from? Why did I feel so intimidated and insecure around taller women?
Here’s a funny story…
There was a girl in one of my classes at the University of Florida. I knew she was on the volleyball team because she’d always wear their apparel. She was really attractive and I had a massive crush on her. She was also about three inches taller than me.
I’d want to talk to her before or after class so badly. I’d fantasize about ways to stumble into conversations with her. I’d pray we’d be leaving the classroom at the same time and happen to be walking home in the same direction.
Unfortunately these dream scenarios never went down – until I saw her in the grocery store one day.
It was a Saturday or Sunday morning and I sauntered into the grocery store with my friends, carefree and unaware of who was waiting for me around the corner. I turned into aisle three and saw her looking at the items on the shelf about ten feet in front of me.
I seized up. I had a flash instinct to duck into another aisle before she saw me. As I stood there with my mouth slightly open she turned, looked at me and smiled. I was too late.
“Hey!” she said excitedly, recognizing me from class.
“Hi…” I muttered sheepishly. I was excited to converse with her and could sense that she liked me a little bit but for some reason I felt unworthy.
To me she was this tall, attractive goddess and I was just an average-height dude she’d never think about in that way. I psyched myself out before I even had a chance!
Immediately I started apologizing for things.
“Sorry I’m dressed like this.” Granted I was dressed pretty poorly but the grocery store isn’t where people expect you to dress to impress.
And this was a girl who wore volleyball t-shirts and shorts most of the time. An odd apology for sure.
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Note from Brock: You should always try to dress well when you’re in public – even for a quick trip to the grocery store. You never know who you’ll run in to!
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I apologized for being tired, being hungover, and for my hair being messy. I just kept rattling them off. Neither one of us really knew why.
Eventually, we both decided it’d be best to end the conversation and we headed in opposite directions shaking our heads.
WHY?!?
As men, we believe we’re supposed to be taller and stronger than the women we seek to attract. There’s no question that lots of women feel this way too. It’s a cultural thing, it’s wired into our genetics, blah blah blah.
In the majority of cases, however, I don’t think height matters. It may put a shorter man at a disadvantage but it definitely doesn’t rule them out.
I’m sure that some girls have a hard and fast rule that they won’t get with guys who are shorter than them. Forget those girls. They’re the equivalent of guys who’ll only date a girl who’s a “9 or better.” No one wants to be with those people.
Many of the girls I’ve talked to about it don’t even really consider height. They’re attracted to a guy based on how he carries himself and how he treats her, not on how large the height discrepancy happens to be. They tend to laugh at me when I ask if they have something against shorter guys.
I’ve come to believe that, like most insecurities, equating a lack of height with a lack of attractiveness or desirability is all in my head.
Three Simple Solutions to Feeling Short Around Women
Ironically, my two shortest friends are the ones with no problems getting girlfriends or attracting girls. They even have problems with girls in their lives fighting over them. Not a terrible problem to have.
What is it about these dudes that enables them to attract so many women? I think it comes down to three principles, all three of which can be worked into your own mindset and behaviors.
#1: Never treat it like a disadvantage
Not once in the time I’ve known them (about eight years) have I heard them mention their height as a disadvantage.
When I mention how they’re with a taller girl they give me a weird look or just shrug it off. In their mind it’s not even an issue, and they definitely don’t treat it as a weakness.
They know what they bring to the table and they lay it out boldly for the girl to see. If she wants to ignore them because they stand a couple inches shorter than her… so be it.
That’s her loss.
#2: No shame in your game
Shame definitely has its place. If you betray someone’s trust or steal out of your mom’s purse or start a religious argument on Facebook, you deserve to be ashamed.
But you have to draw the line.
There’s that old quote about not worrying about things that we can’t change. If you could snap your fingers and be six foot two I’m sure you would. You’d be crazy not to. (I’ve had fantasies of a genie granting me that wish since I first saw Aladdin back in the day.)
But worrying and stressing over it, believing it’s something to be ashamed of, isn’t okay. It dampens self-esteem, which has ripple effects on all conversations with attractive women that don’t go as well as we want them too.
The good part about these feelings is that they’re irrational. They’re grounded in our assumptions about a situation rather than the reality. Girls will very rarely count you out on height alone. My two friends who’ve been swimming in women are proof.
It’s all in how you carry yourself and how you feel about it. If you have no reservations about your height, she won’t either.
#3: Use humor to flip the script
One of my baseball coaches in high school was around 5’4.
The guy was miniature in stature but his confidence was through the roof. He had no hesitation or shame and he regularly told us about his various conquests.
I was somewhat terrified of talking to the older, taller attractive girls at school so I would grill him about his mindset and how he was able to project such a massive confidence with such a diminutive stature.
His responses were so shocking that I had to laugh.
He told us that he’d acknowledge he was short but lay out for a girl exactly how he’d make up for it (you can use your imagination). It was graphic and over-the-top but he said it in a no-nonsense way that was hilarious.
The point is that he used his sense of humor to turn the tables on any female who thought about counting him out based on his height.
Pretending something doesn’t exist shows we’re self-conscious about it. Showing why it doesn’t matter shows self-awareness and confidence that all women crave.
And if you can make her laugh while you’re doing that, you’re going to come out ahead nine times out of ten.
A Daily Practice
There are things about you that women will find attractive. Maybe you dress well or have a great sense of humor. Or maybe you’re just a hardworking, genuinely caring dude.
Focus on these things, and try to ditch the irrational fears that hold you back.
If you develop a truly confident attitude your height won’t matter. Women who thought they cared about height will look right past it.
If you don’t care, they won’t either.
What do you think about dating taller women? Leave a comment below!
I have always been attracted to very tall women, however I can’t seem to sustain a long term relationship with any of them. In full disclosure I
am 6’3” and have dated women 5’10” to 6’8” and
honestly only one woman who was 6’1” biologically
and would wear hi heels like 6” as she wanted to be
taller and all the rest of them hated their god given height and made it known and looking back I should have never broke up with Vi the 6’1” gal and unfortunately she passed way a number of years ago
and we could never get what we had back.
Came across this interesting blog and as a male 6’2”
in a relationship with a beautiful woman who is 6’5”
and the other evening we went to an event and she
introduced me to two of her female friends one was
6’11” and the other was 6’9” and honestly it was
humiliating being what I thought I was a tall guy in the
presents of 3 women not only taller, but totally emasculated me and in no uncertain terms let me know about my shorter stature and liked talked over me and when leaving they both bent way down to give me a hug and indicate how short I am.
I am a reasonably tall guy 6’2” in a somewhat relationship with a very attractive woman who is
6’7” and that alone has created some insecurities for
me. We have started going out again and she wears
these 5” hi heels and that only intensifies my lack of
any masculine feeling standing next to her and she will
put her arms on my shoulders bending over and down while kissing me whispering in my ear how she is attracted to me loves me and I shouldn’t let her height advantage over me turn me off.
How am I suppose to feel as I thought a tall good looking guy 6’2” recently met this beautiful smart
woman who is an astonishing 6’’8” and of coarse killer legs that only belongs wearing hi heels and she does and I do my best not to seem intimidated by my total
diminutive stature in her presents and my best acting
job comes up way short as i do when standing under
her arm pits and it’s not suppose to play on my mind.
I’m 5’7 and my girlfriend is 6’3. We are happy together and she doesn’t mind our height difference, neither do I.
Am also wondering too. Because am one of these short guys😊😊 and am not sure about my future on that. It is my biggest worry not to find myself there and how I got a big fear of rejection.
The most attractive, masculine and confident man I ever dated is 5’5″tall. I’m a smidgeon over 5’6″. When we went out, he used to insist that I wore high heels. He genuinely liked me being taller than him! Sadly, we parted company but it had NOTHING to do with his height. If a man accepts himself, why wouldn’t a taller woman want to be with him? Only shallow people insist on perfection in others.
I am above average height for a woman (5’8″) and prefer to be with a man taller than me. I did not choose to be tall for a woman. I really don’t think it’s fair I should just be ignored. It’s not the same as the “only date a 9 guy.” With enough money or gym time, you can change your appearance. I cannot make myself shorter !
hello i m 22 years with my guy who is 5.3 & me 6.1 & he is 15y older, and no,he is not rich haha 🙂 he is funny, make me smile all the time, courageous, smart, he see all the good things in the world & people while i see all the bad (he easy trust when i don’t) so we get a balanced advise about people 😀 we both like cats & speak about univers & stars ect, for some stuff we think same, for other we are different, but we make only a 1 together, sorry hard to explain for me in english, i am from Belgium 🙂
Just trust in yourself guys:)
I feel therapy isn’t the answer, being a tall guy 6’2” unable to sustain a relationship with taller women who I
have been very attracted to and in many cases they have been equally attracted to me and somewhere my
insecurities take over. This gorgeous woman who is 6’3” and would wear very hi heels because it made her gorgeous legs look even better and would constantly tell me I was the love of her life and the fact at times she would tower over me I should embrace it as she does and couldn’t understand that I as a tall very good looking man had this insecurity with our height difference and only in the bedroom was it great for me.
Thought I would share with you guys of shorter stature,
hey I am a tall guy 6’2” tried to date this woman who
is like 6’5” and she flat out told me I wasn’t tall enough
for her and I pushed the conversation and then she indicated if she wore her favorite heels i’d be just
another smaller guy she’d be towering over and it wasn’t happening, whether your 5’2” or 6’2” these
long legged bimbos seem to have the same song.
I have always been drawn towards tall women and being 6’2” it’s rare when I come across a leggy beauty and while traveling in Europe last year meet a very tall and beautiful woman age appropriate and we recently
hooked up again in the States and to my dismay she will continually apologize for being taller. She will carry a pair of flats in her purse and will slip them on usually complaining that her feet hurt and even then she’s a good 3 or 4 inches taller and no matter how I try to embrace her height advantage and find her a beautiful sexy woman nothing seems to convince her of my
desire to be with her despite her much taller stature.
Sometimes I feel like I have a disease instead of like being height challenged. As a male 5’7” it seems every
woman I come in contact with towers over me and honestly I find myself drawn to these towering lanky
women no matter what others may think or even say.
Presently I am fortunately in a relationship with a very
attractive woman who is an astonishing 6’2” and if
weird comments and stares could kill we’d both be
dead.
I have been looking at different blogs since I have been in a relationship with a beautiful taller woman, I am 6’2”
and she’s an amazing 6’6” and for some reason I have read where many taller women feel like when holding hands with their shorter boyfriend it’s like their child and
they feel like a giant. The other evening we went out and she looked and was absolutely gorgeous and wearing very hi heels and I tongue in cheek asked as we walked into the restaurant, do I seem like your
child and she slapped me on top of my shoulder while
bending down/over and whispered while sticking her
tongue in my ear saying, does this seem like it.
Maybe tall guys with shorter girlfriends should be asked
do they feel like they are with their daughters??
Recently met a very attractive taller woman age appropriate and being a reasonable height 6’ and
she’s like 6’2” and it seems every time when we
are together she is constantly apologetic for her height
and no matter what I say as her beauty/height is a
serious attraction for me, yet it seems to fall on deaf
ears. We were at a New Year Eve party and she wore this magnificent dress along with super hi heels and
at first it was a bit uncomfortable and for me soon
felt fabulous having this gorgeous woman towering over me and almost everyone and while dancing several times indicated she should have never worn
those shoes as it made her to tall for me and she became very apologetic and it became like the topic
instead of the great time we were having and especially
when we got back to her place.
it is difficult to not find validity in all these sympathetic views..I lost my partner 10 years ago who was same height- just over 5 ft. Do you think mature age women are less likely to worry about height if they find you cute, polite etc..p.s Terrified, it has been so long since I have had more than a friend coffee.
I recently met a beautiful woman who is taller and being a guy 6’1” that doesn’t happen very often and in fact she’s like 6’4 and with her shoe choice even makes her
taller and in fact I find it empowering to have this tall gorgeous woman have to bend down so we can hug and kiss and then the rest is up to me.
I must admit as a 6’2” male finally dating a woman who is 3”taller and when we are in conversation while standing it’s fabulous looking up at her and her looking down on me and so far heels haven’t come into play and if they do I am sure she will make me feel just as comfortable as she already has.
I recently meet a woman who was taller and being a male 6’2” that doesn’t usually happen. This very attractive woman was like 2” maybe 3” taller and the entire time we were engaged in conversation height
never came into the conversation and when we meet
at a restaurant several days latter, she came in the restaurant and wearing hi heels and when I stood up
to greet her she came over bent down gave me a hug
and kiss and again height never entered our conversation and it’s now almost a year and if it weren’t
for strangers the topic wouldn’t come up. We have so
many more topics and attractions then our height difference.
While looking for a place to air my grievances about the real nonsense people seem to experience when a man is with a woman who is taller and or significantly taller and I am sick and tired of the stupid stares and even the rude and in many cases the tasteless remarks.
I am a male 6’2” and when I was a very young man
broke up with a beautiful girl who was 6’3” in all honesty looking back, I just couldn’t deal with it all.
Today as a middle age man same height in a relationship with a gorgeous age appropriate woman who yes is tall 6’1” and yes when she wears heels is
taller and depending on the heel height of her shoe
choice means reasonably taller or maybe close to a head taller and now in my maturity I have learned to be
able to tune out these people who when they see this
tall beautiful woman put her arms on my shoulder and
lean over to hug and or kiss me just tune them out and I would hope they do the same. Taller women and shorter man should not be looked at as a freak show,
Find myself looking for some answers trying to be with a taller woman. She’s 6’1” and I am 5’9” ok then the issue about shoes, for her flats or heels and then I find
myself stuffing socks anything in my shoes for that inch
or two which after reading the comments here seem even more ridiculous. I am a short dude with a taller girlfriend and if it’s 4”or 8” should it make a difference if
it doesn’t for her.
Came across this interesting blog while searching the web for some answers regarding a relationship I am in
or having with a very tall attractive woman and as a tall
guy 6’2” I am not accustomed to women who are taller
naturally(bare feet) then threw in the heels and in all honesty it’s overwhelming and just can’t help mentioning this to her when walking or dancing and especially trying to hug and kiss her. I must admit being very attracted to her, however she’s 6’7” then
those heels and it’s demoralizing, it shouldn’t be and
i realize it’s only height, she’s taller get over it.
Interesting blog as I continually read how taller women don’t like the fact that their height is always bought up,
ok, as a short guy 5’2” does anyone really think I like
my shortness of height constantly brought to my attention like it’s something I don’t know, I live with it
24/7 thru no fault of mine.
Interesting blog and as a height challenged dude at 5’4”
recently met this very attractive woman claiming to
be like 6’0” and of coarse with the help of her footwear choice maybe my eyes stare into her belly button and all this very attractive woman does is complain about her height with her arms on my shoulders bending over so I can hear the complaints and she has problems.
I should be so lucky to have her problem,
Found this interesting blog while trying to figure out why
I as a male considered good looking 6’2” attracted to taller women get labeled either having a fetish or being a creep. I am respectful and am always straight forward that her beauty and height are my first attractions and then of coarse intelligence.
The shortest girl I have ever been with was 6’1” bare feet and the tallest 6’8” bare feet and the relationships have lasted from maybe 6 months to my last one that
was about 3 years. I have found most of these super
tall women have issues for one reason or another that won’t let them really be themselves and accept a reasonably tall guy can appreciate their height,beauty and intelligence without being creep or a fetish and I don’t care about the weather or if they played basketball or any other nonsense other to have a very serious relationship with a woman who is taller and accept that fact. I trust this tall statuesque beauty is out
there and we will meet up.
Found this blog trying to resolve my situation as a male 6’1” in a relationship with a taller woman 6’4” and at times especially when she’s wearing those heels and towering over me seems to really empower her as the dominating person and will indicate that as she professes her love for me while bending at her knees and over to hug or kiss me making me feel almost like a helpless slave to this gorgeous statuesque woman and a position that can’t be healthy for me and makes
me think every time I see a beautiful woman who is shorter, what would that be like emotionally?
I am a reasonably tall 6’2” goodlooking guy attracted to taller women and when a relationship begins become very insecure with her being taller. Over the past 20 years I have lost 2 beautiful women, the last one was a gorgeous 6’5” and thought nothing about going with heels and seemed like taunting a very sensitive situation knowing I had broken up previously with a woman who was 6’1” and I felt very insecure when she
wore those heels, no matter how hard she would let me
know how much she loved me and the fact eye level was good and leaning done for me was even better and I just couldn’t handle it. So far therapy isn’t helping either, being a tall guy is the cure all end all.
I am 5’7 and I dated a woman who is 6’3, It didn’t bother me nor she. It is all about attitude, because there are tall women that doesn’t care dating shorter men, keep this in mind.
Found this blog while trying to understand my insecurities, anxiety with the fact my present gf is
really gorgeous and unique being 6’1” and I am like
6’ and on occasions like the other night she wore like
6” heels and my anxiety level because of her towering
over me reached a level that caused her to remove her
shoes and indicated very snarlie is this better and in
all honesty, it was.
Came across this blog while looking for some answers to why very tall women seem to have soo many issues with their god given feature ‘height’? I am I thought a tall goodlooking guy 6’1” recently meet this beautiful woman who is 6’6” and thinks nothing to let me know how short I am and will even go further with it when wearing hi heels and to be honest the other day we walked by a window and I saw our reflection and must admit I looked like a little boy with either her mother or
bigger sister, and yet everything is great except when we are standing up next to each other, how is this possible?
It seems I have always been attracted to taller girls when in High School and now in my middle age taller women. I am considered goodlooking guy 6’1” who had recently met this gorgeous woman who is 6’3” and
yes wears heels and people who know me as well as strangers seem to make the dumbest and in some cases just down right cruel remarks because of her being taller or me being shorter. I can’t get past the fact, what is it there Business? I must admit I have no
good responses and in many times will just go off on those idiots with some pretty nasty remarks which I
know doesn’t solve anything, but at times sure as hell
feels good. In full disclosure she would prefer to ignore.
I’m 5’9″, and have a major crush on this local dancer teacher. One day I ran into her…I always thought she was much taller than me. Turns out I am taller than her by an inch! I had a ‘short self image’!! Which makes sense because i was really short all through high school. Height seems to be a state of mind!
Very interesting blog and being a goodlooking guy 5’9”
I don’t think I have ever dated a woman who was really shorter, either like eye level or like a head taller, however I would never go on my toes to hug or kiss them, the women had to bend over or down or both and in many cases would drape their arms or place their hands on my shoulders. Presently with a woman who is 6’4” insists upon wearing heels and complains all the
time when we are standing, however in the bedroom it’s a totally different story or why would she be with a guy who maybe comes to her belly button.
I came across this blog while trying to find some answers and became more confused regarding male/female height differential. I am a goodlooking guy 6’2” financially solid very much in love with a beautiful woman who is 6’7” and yes that was when I first met her could I really be interested in this woman who towered over me and to be perfectly honest didn’t know how I could handle it. I found not only was she this majestic statuesque beauty she was damn smart and yes I as she did bring up our height difference and in fact after several dates asked if it bothered me she wore hi heels and to be honest I said it did, but to be this tall, beautiful and smart, i’ll figure it out, however I
haven’t. No matter what I tell myself and what I relate to her, there are soo many times my comfort level is stressed and more than a few conversations are about our height differential and her wearing heels and it just
seems to take the steam/lust from the relationship.
I don’t even think it’s the heels, when she’s barefooted and standing I still here go up on my toes to kiss her and she senses that and at times comments. I know it’s
only height, but reversed, shouldn’t be this big a deal however it is.
Saw this blog and for all you guys who are short, as a guy who is 6’1” and was in a long time relationship with a beautiful leggy woman 6’6” who after her heels maybe loved me, but I don’t think a day went bye well maybe a day that she didn’t bring up our height difference like i could do something about it, don’t wear the damn heels and then your only 5” taller.
I have followed this blog and as a fairly goodlooking guy only with limited stature being 5’3” I was in Lowe’s the other day and trying to get something that was on a very high shelf and I was standing on some boxes and
my concentration was soo intense on trying to reach the item in question when over my back came this arm and asked in a beautiful voice if this item was what I wanted and as I turned this very tall pretty woman towered over me and when I stepped down the difference was even more overwhelming and as I said you are soo tall and she said you are soo short and now we established that can I help you reach anything else. As I thanked her and feeling soo intimidate and she said maybe we could text or exchange numbers and discuss this another time. She has since texted me once and left a vioice message and I can’t bring myself to respond. My stomach has been churning since.
Dooo itttttt!!!
I thought as a very tall woman just maybe an opinion from the other perspective would be appreciated.
I am 6’4” by the time i was 15 and yes was always the
tallest and looked like a bean pole and prayed I would never grow another inche or maybe shrink, however neither happened. I had models looks, but told I was too tall, so I went to college and except for a basketball
player or two really never had a date since I wouldn’t
consider anyone who wasn’t at least 6’3” yes an 1”
shorter since I wouldn’t dare or think of wearing hi heels. Some two decades later my boundaries have
changed and i dated men as short as 5’6” and yes I
wear hi heels and I am presently in a serious relationship with an extremely handsome man who is
5’11” and he adores my stature and embraces me
wearing hi heels and it’s just a shame it took me soo
long to realize that height isn’t or wasn’t the problem
I thought it was. It’s the person not the height or lack of height of the person.
It sucks to be a short male in today’s society, very seldom am I even close to a woman’s lips and most
of the time under her chin, arm pit and many times which is most bothersome under her boobs and that’s
being a 5’2” male and I should dress taller?
I was directed to this site/blog and found it very interesting/informative, however as a goodlooking guy
6’0” in relationship with a beautiful woman who is 6’4”
and it seems I am always looking for excuses not to go
anywhere in public. Last night we got dressed to go out and she looked drop dead gorgeous and of coarse
had those 6” heels on and when she came over and bent over/down to kiss and whisper in my ear how excited and turned on I make her feel and my insecurity
with our enormous height difference made me say can’t
we just order room service and make love all night.
She said that would be fine if she could leave her new
shoes on. Sometimes I wonder why she just doesn’t
tell me it’s over, I know she senses my insecurities with
our height difference, I sometimes wonder if counseling
could help me?
I have always been attracted to much taller women and
as a male 5’8″ I find only older taller women seem to have any interest in towering over a love interest.
I am presently in a relationship with a woman who is
12 years older and 11″ taller and a day doesn’t go bye
I don’t lookup at this tall beautiful woman and think
just how very lucky I am for her love knowing how at
times it can be very awkward for her.
How old are tou?
How old are you?
I was shown your blog and as a male with not only shortness of height 5’3″, but insecure and total lack of
any self confidence around women. For years I have been rejected and only because of my lack of height
since I have always been told I’m a very good looking
guy I’m just soo damn short. Ok, about 3 months ago
I started using cannabis and my entire social and sex life changed, my confidence is at an all time high and
my present GF is a beautiful woman 5’11” and is totally
into me my short stature as I with the fact she towers
over me and we are both good with it and everything else.
I was shown this blog and felt I needed to relate this since as a tall guy 6’2″ and recently involved with a beautiful woman who is 6’7″ and the other night after
getting to the car and I opened the door so she could get in we got into an embrace and as I went to kiss her
I found myself on my toes trying to reach her lips and
and to be honest it was humiliating to my masculinity
that she had to lean over and all I could think of what if
she had heels on and what do really short guys do?
I must admit i never thought that a few inches could
affect my masculinity in this manner and several days
latter she wore hi heels the height difference became
even more of a challenge to my masculinity and she sensed it which really humiliated me that I was this
shallow of a man.
Michael, your problem is not shallowness. It is insecurity. If you were not attractive to her she would not have gone out with you in the first place. I suggest the next time you want to kiss your giantess, you just grab her and kiss her, willy-nilly. Do not grab her crotch, however. Only lowlifes do that.
It’s funny because I am a tall woman (6) and I’ve always been attracted to shorter men and dated some, but after a few months all of them ended up telling me that they were not feeling confortable dating a taller woman because of the way people were looking at us. To date a taller woman a man better be self confident!
Jade You are the exception to the rule. I wish more women were like you. To this very day, I like taller women, but when I was in my 20’s. Not one would give me the time of day. Read my post on June 11, 2016.
I think that you are also an exception to the rule because believe me all the men I met in my life told me that they prefer dating a woman their height or shorter.
For example I find the actor Martin Freeman incredibly attractive. He is only 5.6 but I don’t care. I wouldn’t mind dating a man like him but I am sure he wouldn’t date a tall woman like me! It’s more difficult for a tall woman to find a man than for a short man to find a woman!
Jade, why do you think so? The two situations seem symmetrical.
Miss Jade You never mentioned your height. I am 5’8″. Would you accept a date from me, when you were 21? I dated women taller, but they all were 32. What do you think was going on?
I am 6′ and I had my first shorter boyfriend (5’7″) at the age of 16. I am 35 now and I am single because I am tired of dating men who are not confident enough to date a tall woman!
I was shown this blog and although I am not a short guy
I just want to get this off my chest. My present gf is a
beautiful woman 6’4″ and I am 6’2″ and there is no problem until she puts on those damn 4″ heels and I must admit she is drop dead gorgeous, however the level of uncomfort for me I can’t even begin to describe other than smallness, weakness in my knees and no matter how I try it just won’t go away and I don’t want to
lose this beautiful woman and I know this sounds ridiculous, but when she has to bend or lean over down
to hug or and kiss me or slip off her shoes it really gets to me that I feel so compromised by lack of height even though I’m a tall guy. Am I this shallow?
With all due respect, Noah, you are being a fool. If a beautiful woman is interested in you, why cavil about nonsense? It is especially odd and, as you say, shallow, for a man 6’2″ to be self-conscious about being too short.
I am sick of all this bs, as a short man 5’4″. It seems every time I turn around I am either under a females chin, armpit or boob and the remarks leveled because of my shortness of height which really is no fault of mine has become odious. It just sucks to be this short and being told how good looking I am but your just soo
damn short
The greatest injury of racism is not the discrimination or even the injustices. It is the damage to one’s own self-esteem. My father came from an antisemitic Eastern European country and it damaged his self-esteem too. Tyler, you are internalizing the heightist discrimination you have suffered. Don’t. Many, possibly most tall women don’t care except to the extent that they too have been discriminated or mocked for being the wrong height. Models are no model at all because they are not only tall but also unusually beautiful and shapely. Most tall women are self-conscious about appearing clunky and clumsy. You are confusing the prejudice with the fact. Here is an idea on how to not only get a tall woman to go out with you, but to sleep with you – make her feel good about herself. Making her feel good about you will come off as egotism or vanity. If you have no imagination, you can make her feel good about herself by flattery so long as it is even remotely believable. If you are smart, you can make her feel good about herself in imaginative ways. She will be too busy showing you her bedroom to remember that you are short. The corresponding feat, is to not be self-conscious about your height. If you are you will keep reminding her how insecure you are. Every woman wants an insecure whiney little bitch to go out with, right? Make her feel attractive and feminine and you got her. For some. But how many do you need at any one time?
Thanks for this article, I was feeling very self conscience about my date later tonight who is taller than me, this made me realise that I’m being ashamed of something silly!
Females should not be taller than their boyfriends. It looks abnormal and weird. Men are supposed to be taller than the female and females are supposed to be shorter than the male.i am totally against relationships where a tall women dates a shorter male.The average height for females are between 5.0′ to 5.2′. The 5’5 man should not have an issue dating an average female.Anywats the average male in Canada and USA is between 5’5 to 5’7.Radclieff looks average for a male. The female he is with is a amazon who needs to date 7.0′ men.
Very interesting point of view, Charly. Can you explain your reasoning behind it?
Considering the website and the subject, mayhap “Charlie Evans” is a troll seeking to provoke?
As a 5’4″ male not enough space to list my rejections,
however despite my shortness of height I was blessed
with very good looks.
The past 20 years I have had enormous financial gains and with all due respect “money” has become a replacement for my lack of height.
Presently i am in a relationship with a beautiful woman age appropriate who is 6’1″ and she seems to have no
problems with our huge height difference and I find it to
be a complete and total turn on.
This article is very good – thank you. I’ve primarily dated online since my divorce. It’s a mix in my experience of what women look for but I like your attitude about forgetting the ones that are that superficial to look at one physical characteristic.
I am loving what I am learning on here and the effortless gent. The information is extremely helpful and I’m dressing better than I have in my life and I’m just getting started. The big thing I’ve noticed is that women love it. I’m constantly getting compliments and they really notice the little details like a pocket square, nice belt, slightly unique shoes etc.
Thanks again for a motivational article.
This is a very inspiring article. I agree that how you project yourself in terms of your personality and your character are much more important in life than how tall you are. As a 5’5″ man, I’ve dated shorter women, women slightly taller than me, and am married to a woman the same height as myself (we’ll celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary next month). Do I still feel insecure about my height or wish I were taller sometimes? Of course, I’m only human. But I’ve learned through the years that if you project confidence in yourself (and dressing well/wearing clothes that fit well is one aspect of that) and respect yourself and others, good things will follow.
Brock, I think this article by Stephen Silver on how shorter men can date taller women is very inspiring and thought provoking for the vast majority of male readers who follow your excellent advice on dressing well. However, for those of us in the minority who are gay, my experience with trying to date other gay men is much more complicated. Things that others may think are superficial seem to be more important. So height differences are a factor in attractiveness, as are “good looks”, a nice physique, a certain style of dressing & grooming, and a very tolerant personality. Of course a sense of humor and a good conversationalist are always attractive traits.
As a “modest man”, I am so pleased to have found your website and to receive your blogs. Your writings have helped me tremendously in learning how to “dress taller”. So Brock, I sincerely thank you for that.
Terry
I was wondering whether this would be applicable at all for non-heterosexual men, as it’s written from a straight perspective.
In your experience, can being a petite man be seen as a good/attractive thing?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Interesting question, Brock. In general, I wouldn’t say that a petite man would be seen as a good thing. However, I would say that difference in height is not as critical, certainly within 3 or 4 inches difference (petite man to taller man). Just my opinion. Thanks.
FYI: Kevin Hart admitted on a CNN interview that he is 5’2″, not 5’4″.
How tall is Stephen? Great article none the less, just curious.
I’m something like a hair over 5’7 and my wife is 5’9…no worries. She doesn’t like to wear heels though, I insist she does anyway. I tell her, “You play the super model, I’ll play the guy everyone assumes must have a big ****) Lol, it works. Makes her giggle.
According to some places on the internet, shorter guys should be insecure about height. Whatever. I struggled for years with insecurity related to height. I’m done with that…mostly. Insecurities are a part of life I suppose. It’s how we react to them that matters.
Muscles and dressing well (thanks Brock!) helps immensely. So does cash in the bank. (for self-esteem, not for attracting women)
Can’t speak for guys shorter than myself, but I know that for guy’s in the 5’7 & 5’8 range it really is 99% in our heads. Focus on the positive, learn from and move on from the negative, and stay off the internet echo-chambers unless it is a positive influence. (positive like this blog!)
“Stay off the internet…live forever” – Tina Fey (isn’t she married to a guy shorter than her?)
I honest to God believe that if a man is willing to ‘put himself out there’, he can always find a way to makes things work out for him, regardless of external circumstance…like height.
Hey Chris,
I’m in the 5’7 to 5’8 range too. I like your style and perspective!
Thanks Stephen!
I read through your blog, good stuff. Even though I am married and obviously not approaching women to date, I still found your writing and positive attitude to be…refreshing.
So long as you are able to take care of her “needs” in the bedroom, height difference is not a problem.
Brock, I follow your advice to dress to enhance my relationship and business game. So I enjoyed this post!
Awesome, glad you liked it!
I have been trying to imbibe #1 and #3, and it is working. Still to try #2.
But I sometimes become conscious when during a party or a gathering I’m surrounded by taller dudes. I somehow lose my game and start the self deprecation engine.
How to get over this ?
Take care of you, how you dress, how you treat a woman, follow the Brock articles and DON’T care about your height… By experience, trust me, if you don’t care, woman neither.
Hope helps my advice.
Big difference between observing height differences and feeling ashamed over a genetic trait over which you had no control.
Learn to build your self-esteem and confidence just as you would your muscles in the gym, or your wardrobe to dress better. It takes time and hard work.
I actually found that the best way to be less insecure around tall people is to be around tall people! Same with getting rejected by women, the more you put yourself out there to be rejected the easier it is when it happens. (just make sure you learn from the experiences)
Couldn’t agree more here. Keep working at it. Build it like a muscle.
My wife is taller than me, about 2 to 3 inches and neither she or me EVER really care. Since I start date her years ago, I always ignore this fact and any jokes that some “friends” made… In fact I always (even now) joke about this height difference. The message here is as was mention on this article: As long as you legitimate don’t care, everything will be ok, you always have other resources that can make the difference in you, like dress properly and take care of you.
And you always have the “old” handy joke of ” Good things ALWAYS come on small packages”.
Very good article!
Pedro.
Thanks, Pedro!
I totally agree with the 3 points. Actually I never thought about #2, height is nothing to be ashamed of.
I’m 5’5″ and I dated a number of taller girls in my life.
I never thought for a second not trying to hit on a girl I liked because of the difference in height.
#3 is really a good point. I feel confident despite the lack of height and I’m able to joke about it with a taller girl I’m dating.
When you are 5 7 like me, it is upsetting to hear women say they do not date shorter men. But those that do,are amazing and caring.
My GF is 6’5″ and I’m 5’6″. The only place height has been a disadvantage, as far as dating goes, is online.
Dude that is awesome.