Not every bad influence looks the same and it certainly isn’t obvious when a person embodies adverse qualities. There are many men who women meet who can smile, joke, and act all chummy and nice, but deep down, there is no one worse to get into a relationship or even friendship with. These men don’t add positively to your life; they aren’t honest, stable, or evolved. They make a point of ruining your perception of men in general and bring chaos and insecurity to your life. Read on and learn about these types of men right here.
The Chronic Victim
This is the kind of guy who can’t seem to take accountability. Nothing is ever his fault, and he blames everything on his partner, bad luck, or even strangers who have nothing to do with him. He calls everyone “haters” frequently and slowly but surely he starts influencing your mindset till it eventually matches him entirely.
The Jealous Supporter
This is the kind of man who’s all smiles and supportive of your achievements on the surface. However, inside, he is seething and tends to pay backhanded compliments that serve to batter your self-confidence and happiness. He is the kind of person who brings a new level to being silently resentful yet ostensibly happy.
The One-Upper
He is the kind of person who has to show that he’s better than you in everything. No matter the level of your achievements or possessions, he has to show that he can and has done better. He makes every conversation seem tense and like a competition that you never expected it to be.
The Emotional Leech
He is the kind of person who makes every interaction seem like a therapy session. He constantly unloads and laments about his issues but chooses to remain silent or disappear entirely when it’s your turn to need some emotional support. These men are emotional leeches that drain you of all passion and energy and give nothing in return.
The Loyalty Test Guy
He is the kind of man who expects you to choose him over your friends, families, values, and even your career. He devises trials to test your loyalty and criticizes you when you somehow end up failing in a test that you didn’t even know you were attempting.
The Man Who Hates Accountability
He is the kind of person who avoids responsibility and taking accountability for his mistakes like the plague. He will belittle and laugh off serious matters or mistakes and immediately expect you to forgive him for them. He is the kind of person who makes you numb to irresponsibility and normalizes such behavior.
The Gossip Addict
He is the kind of person who constantly engages in talking smack or gossiping about others with you. He complains, makes assertions, and drops hints about people, some that you don’t even know. You should know that he might do the same with you in front of others too. He is the kind of man who loses all trust in the eyes of his partner within a few short weeks.
The Boundary Breaker
This is the kind of man who frequently violates your boundaries, both emotional and physical. For him, mocking and testing your limits becomes a normal occurrence, something that he isn’t ashamed of doing in the least. This shows that he doesn’t love you and certainly doesn’t respect you at all.
The Passive-Aggressive “Nice Guy”
He is the kind of person who pretends like everything is fine while keeping his resentment bottled up within him. You only get to know that something was wrong with him when he explodes unexpectedly, uttering venomously about the things that weren’t sitting right with him.
The Drama Magnet
He is the kind of person who initiates fights, conflicts, and falling-outs frequently. It seems like chaos follows him wherever he goes and being his partner means you will always be on the receiving end of his drama and negativity.
The User
He is the kind of person who will call you only when he needs something from you, like money, connections, or even praise. He tends to disappear the moment he gets what it was that he needed from you.
The Perpetually Negative Realist
He is the kind of person who is incredibly negative, pessimistic, and prone to catastrophizing. He neatly wraps his negativity under the colorful labeling of “being real,” though. He is the kind of person who soundly kills all motivation, hope, and momentum on your part, making you feel like nothing is going to go right with you or your relationship.
The Joker
He is the kind of person who is immensely disrespectful and treats everything like it’s a joke. This behavior extends to include your behavior, expectations, aspirations, ambitions, and so on. Humor is good when it is moderated and tempered with respect, but without respect it only cuts deeply. You don’t want to get into a relationship with a person who always makes jokes at your expense.
The One Who Resents Your Growth
He is the kind of person who scoffs at you when you achieve growth in any aspect of your life. He makes you feel guilty over it and makes you feel penitent for having left them behind in the dust.
The One Who Can’t Celebrate You
He is the kind of person who always remains uncomfortable with your happiness, peace, and even your success. He doesn’t know how to be happy for you and never celebrates your achievements or wins. That is because he never truly loves or respects you.
Final Thoughts
Being in a partnership should feel encouraging, revitalizing, and supportive. However, if a man makes you feel exhausted, drained, guilty, and disrespected, then perhaps it is time you rethought your relationship with him because he’s probably not a good person.
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