When dating, women’s use of time is very important, and it is something that not every man values. It’s clear that no woman wants to invest months or even years into a relationship with a man that is emotionally unavailable, uncommitted, or just not good enough. If a woman pays attention to her partner, it is clear that men tend to reveal themselves sooner than she realizes. Most of the time, it’s not a lack of insight, but rather a lack of attention to the many signals that are available.
Women that have a little experience in dating, are often surprised by the lack of the more notable and significant changes to something like a man’s behavior. More often than not, it is just the little things that a woman pays attention to that tend to show her what a relationship with a man is going to be like, and this often reflects whether or not a man is going to be a significant part of her life, or a disposable man.
Here is a compilation of 15 of the little things that women tend to see, and as a result, often determine whether a man is going to be worth a significant amount of time and energy.
How consistent he is
Faking charm for a few days is easy. It is the long term engagement that separates die hard fans from casual admirers. A good investment of time is a man who is present. He is available when he says he is, alters plans of his accord, and does not leave without a good reason. Consistency is a good measure of maturity and emotional growth.
The way he treats people who can do nothing for him
Character is exemplified in how we treat the powerless. The way he speaks to waiters, service people, randoms, or even a dog, is informative. A man of respect does not change his persona. He does not show a different face. To be kind to someone, is to have empathy, and not to be polite.
Whether he respects your time
If there are plans and he cancels the last minute, or does not show up without a text, these are all clear signs that he does not respect your time. It is in fact a demonstration of value to the person that is behind the time.
Planning and preparing ahead of time shows they are committed to the relationship and are not wasting your time.
His ability to communicate honestly
Communication does not involve long texts and tons of calls. Clear and truthful statements say it all. When a man expresses his feelings, expectations, and intentions, he saves both people a lot of confusion. It is the worst feeling to experience a lack of communication to the point misunderstandings pile up and almost become a source of frustration. Uncommunicated grievances can sooner or later become a source of disillusionment and affect the relationship poorly.
How he handles disagreement
There is not a single relationship that does not experience conflict. What matters is how the involved parties react and respond. A man’s emotional intelligence can be evaluated based on the level of calm they exhibit when a stressful situation is at hand, their ability to understand and consider the views of the other party when they are listening to a problem, and their general composure. A man that is overly aggressive when people have differing opinions or become aggressive when the truth is presented is going to create a lot that will be difficult to deal with.
His attitude toward women in general
How a man speaks and describes the women he knows shows how he will treat a partner when the time comes. Deflecting all the blame on ex-partners is a sign of unresolved and unhealed bitterness.
A man who blames his former partners, says cliches about women, or views women solely as sources of sexual gratification shows problematic behavior. Respecting women and talking about former partners civilly, even it was an unpleasant relationship, shows maturity.
Whether his actions match his words
It is easy to offer words. Almost anyone can say, “I will be loyal and committed to you.” However, the operative question is, “Will the actions correspond with the promise?” A reliable man will say the same thing again, and the expectation will always be that the behavior will correspond with what is said. If there is a pattern of divergence between what is said and what is done, it is safe to assume that the words were meant to be taken seriously.
His willingness to put in effort
Real interest in a partner is shown in the work that is put into the relationship. A man that truly values a relationship will spend time and energy. This does not mean spending money or going to every event and spending time at every activity. Some times, remembering something important, planning a date, or taking time to say hi when someone is really busy can mean a lot.
His level of emotional availability
Some men like the idea of being in a relationship, but they do not like the idea of being close with someone emotionally. Signs of emotional availability are sharing experiences, being vulnerable, and showing interest in what a partner feels. If someone is emotionally close to a partner, relationship can be very difficult to develop.
The stability of his life
No one expects perfection. Everyone deals with money, job, and personal goal issues. However, a man with some stability in his life tends to bring that stability to his relationships.
A person who can’t keep their promises to their family and friends is likely to repeat that pattern in relationships in the future.
His attitude toward growth
A man worthy of being taken seriously is not the kind to think that he has all the answers. Instead, he focuses heavily on learning and self improvement. Be it in developing a career or personal habits or even emotionally, such a person is bound to be in a great relationship.
The way he handles responsibility
A man’s level of responsibility can be seen in his day to day activities. His follow through on his promises and whether he takes responsibility for the mistakes he makes rather than blaming others is a sign of maturity. Because of this, he is likely to be seen as more trustworthy, which is an important aspect of relationships.
Whether he respects boundaries
Everyone has personal boundaries that they would like to have respected. In a relationship, the partners are expected to respect each others boundaries in terms of personal space, privacy, and individuality. If a person consistently crosses boundaries, they are being very disrespectful and that will cause a lot of problems.
His ability to listen
A good listener pays attention and process what is being said. These types if individuals value a relationship and demonstrated this by remembering details in past conversations and even inquiring further about a topic of discussion.
How he makes you feel about yourself
Emotional feelings are a large aspect of any relationship and is often overlooked because it is difficult to observe. The right person offers calm and support and encourages you. When you are in their presence you feel good about yourself and you feel calm. If an investment is to be made in this relationship it is in this person.
Final Thoughts
Most of the time there is uncertainty in dating. However, people reveal their true characters through actions. Most women are quite skilled at assessing the time and energy men are worthy of. Finding someone with an absence of flaws is unrealistic but understanding the presence of true value in someone is the difference between value and emptiness in a relationship.
When both partners in a relationship put in the time, respect, emotional support, and effort, they cultivate a meaningful and healthy relationship. When these factors are present, the time spent in a relationship is not perceived as wasted, but is rather seen as the building blocks of a wholesome and satisfying partnership.
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