There are times when you feel like you have a shot with someone regarding romance and entering into an actual relationship with them. And why wouldn’t you, seeing as they project palpable and definite intentions of the similar sort in kind, albeit a bit muted at times? But the thing is, no matter how much promise some connections show or how strong the affinity for romance feels, sometimes things don’t work out. There are many people who do like you but aren’t actually interested in entering into a relationship with you. They do things that cause hope to surge within your breast, only to bring you crashing down the next day. Read on and learn about the signs that such a person shows who leads you on but doesn’t actually commit right here.
They are Inconsistent with Their Effort
The thing with these sorts of people is that they show interest, genuinely so at times, but it comes in unpredictable waves. One moment they are genuinely engrossed in you and completely cool and apathetic the next. You find yourself questioning which version of them will show up during your next encounter, making things feel confusing.
They Avoid Defining What You Are
When it comes to defining the relationship between you and them, you will find them incredibly hesitant and unwilling to impart a proper label to it. They will instead dismiss, deflect, or outright brush off these conversations for defining what exists between you and them.
They Keep Things “Light” On Purpose
Another indicator of these people is that they truly enjoy the connection that exists between you and them, but when it comes to actually committing or taking the relationship seriously, you can bet that they will immediately avoid it and steer things in a direction that keeps them from getting profound or future-focused.
They are Emotionally Available, Sometimes
There are moments when you actually feel emotionally connected to them, and they reciprocate in kind as well. However, there is no consistency in this regard either, and at times this deficiency prevents anything real from happening between you and them.
They Say They are Not Ready
They are quick to say that although they like you, they don’t like you that much. What it shows is that they do enjoy your company but just aren’t ready or willing to take the next step towards long-term commitment with you.
They Pull Back When Things Get Closer
You can actually feel them pulling back in the moments when the connection between you and them starts to get serious and deepens notably. This deliberate act of creating distance, be it emotional or physical, shows that they aren’t completely committed to you, nor are they interested in pursuing something deeper.
You are Not Fully Integrated Into Their Life
It is not that you don’t have a place in their world; you do. But it doesn’t feel permanent and certainly not justified at times. This lack of any coherent or palpable inclusion is another indicator that perhaps they don’t feel you are worthy of being integrated completely into their inner world.
They Prioritze Freedom Over the Relationship
When it comes to anything involving obligation, taking responsibility, or defining structure within the relationship, they immediately repudiate such endeavors. They resist it because they aren’t willing to form something authentic with you.
They Give Mixed Signals
You can’t help but notice that they keep sending out confusing and mixed messages whenever you are with them. At times, their actions will signal that they care for you deeply, but later, their decisions will take a completely contrary and contradictory route to what they are saying.
They Enjoy the Benefits Without the Commitment
The thing about these kinds of people is that they want to enjoy all the benefits that come from being in a relationship but aren’t willing to put in the effort, intention, or intimacy in kind. They want connection, closeness, and support, just without properly defining the relationship at all.
They Don’t Make Long-Term Plans With You
You are not a part of their future. They make no mention of you or even attempt to include you in any long-term planning. For them, you are an option, one that is great for hanging out with in the moment but isn’t prioritzed for the future.
You Feel Emotionally Invested, More Than They Are
There is a clear and palpable imbalance between you and them when it comes to emotional investment. Where you are willing to give everything you can to the relationship, they are strangely cautious and restrained in this regard, making the prospect of creating something genuine with them next to impossible.
They Come Back When You Pull Away
You will see that when you try to move on with your life or decenter them from it, they will be drawn to you almost immediately. They will reengage when you start putting distance between you and them. They do this just to keep you close, but not too close.
They Keep Their Options Open
They are always on the hunt for a new beau, one who they are attracted to and can deliver them the excitement and connection that they crave. You are just the guy keeping the seat warm till the next, preferred player walks into their life.
Deep Down, You Feel the Limitation
The thing about these kinds of people is that, deep down, you know that they are taking you for a ride. You are just deluded by the potential of what could be and that perhaps with time you will actually have a shot with them. This is wishful thinking, one that your conscience knows, no matter how deeply you bury it or how emphatically you deny it.
Final Thoughts
Someone can actually and genuinely like and care for you, and they will have a blast of a time being by your side, and still, they might reject you and choose not to treat you in the way you desire or deserve. It is better to walk away from such people at the first opportunity presented to you and walk away. Life has something better in store for you; it is up to you to search it out.
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