It has been seen in recent years that many women are actively trying to emancipate themselves from the need to dissipate their energies, time, and emotional space on men completely. For some of them, the methods that worked were the steady and gradual erecting of boundaries and repudiation of male presence in measured and controlled steps. However, there are some who went for more drastic and, frankly, extreme approaches with their endeavors for denouncing men entirely from their lives. Some might even call these measures downright “psychotic,” and they wouldn’t be wrong about that. Read on and learn about the things that some women do to completely remove men from their lives right here.
Blocking without Warning
There are many women who stopped explaining themselves to men and just completely blocked them without any warning or explanation on all platforms. They didn’t go for any closure and didn’t accord any second chances to those men either.
Deleting Every Male Contact
This might sound extreme, but that is exactly what many women do when they are trying to decentralize men from their lives. They just pick up their phone and expunge all of the male contacts from it, except for their family members and work-related ones, of course.
Pretending They Don’t Exist
Only the truly hardened and committed misandrists go for this route. They act as if a man, be it one who is giving her any attention or not, is completely invisible. They don’t make eye contact and completely ignore their presence.
Refusing to Date Entirely
There are women who completely forswear and renounce all intent to date men, initially for a few years. Some even go so far as to swear off dating men for all their remaining years. These are the ones you see coping hard in their later years or ending up “marrying themselves.”
Leaving at the First Red Flag
Some women don’t have any tolerance for even the smallest of mistakes that a man commits during a date. They leave at the first sign of a behavior or pattern that they regard as a red flag and immediately leave as fast as their legs can carry them.
Changing Their Entire Routine
There are many women who alter their entire routine, like the cafes they visit, the gyms they attend, their grocery stores, and so on. They do all this just so they can escape running into potentially attractive men completely
Muting Every Male Voice Online
These are the special ladies, the ones who can’t even bear to hear the baritone tones that the male voice features. Consequently, they resort to muting every single male voice on their phone, be they contacts or even social media personalities, and so on. They fill their phones and feeds with women completely.
Ghosting Without Guilt
These are the women who initially used to feel bad for ghosting and cease replying to the messages that they received from men without any explanation. But after being rejected and suffering a long series of inadequate men, at least per their perception, they began to indulge in this pernicious behavior without compunction or contrition.
Making Themselves “Unavailable” Deliberately
These women intentionally say they are busy and unavailable on purpose to dissuade men from contacting them. They don’t want men in their lives, so they make excuses to not engage them in the slightest capacity.
Rejecting Compliments
These are the women who can’t stand being complimented by men. They don’t acknowledge when a man lauds them. They simply respond with the perfunctory and customary “Ok” and move on about their business. While they might think this makes them appear cool, the reality is that men dismiss them just as quickly in response as well.
Overanalyzing Early to Avoid Later Pain
One of the reasons why so many women struggle in their later years is because they engage in pedantic hyperanalysis of every man they date. They set unrealistic expectations and standards that no real man can fulfill or satisfy. They set up these men to fail from the start and nod in vehement and frenetic satisfaction when it doesn’t work out with them by the end.
Setting Extremely High Standards
These women raise their standards to impossibly lofty standards, so high that not even the most stellar or seemingly capable man can achieve them. Therein lies their strategy for decentralizing men from their lives, a decision that comes back to haunt them once their beauty wanes and the cracks start appearing on their countenance.
Cutting Off Emotional Labor
These women stopped being the ones who listened intently to the men in their lives when they expressed their fears, feelings, and vulnerabilities to them. They stopped carrying all the emotional burden, ceased fixing things, and rolled back their emotional support.
Romanticizing Solitude
These are the sad women who chose to idealize and romanticize isolation just so they could justify their decision to forego men in their lives. They made being alone feel better compared to a relationship and gradually developed a preference for solitude. That might have worked out for a while while they were young, but most of these women regret their decision to remain alone later on in their lives, when it is too late to ameliorate their situation.
Reframing Attraction as Distraction
These women deemed and reframed the attraction that they felt towards someone as a distraction from their main goals, the ones that truly mattered to them, like career, ambitions, and so on. Only after years pass them by do they come to the realization that they had made a mistake in misconstruing the potential connection they felt so inaccurately.
Final Thoughts
Some of these behaviors might seem extreme and justified, but the reality is that the feeling is short-lived and fleeting. Once the rancor that most of these women feel towards men in general abates with the passing years, the truth hits them like a ton of bricks. They understand that in their quest to decenter men from their lives, they had become truly alone and isolated. They realize that they are forlorn, depressed ladies who are far past their prime and have no one to call truly their own, and that realization hurts them profoundly in that moment and the pain lingers for as long as they live.
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