Have you ever wondered why you try to please people so much? Are you the kind of person who is prone to going to extreme lengths to secure your partner’s happiness? Do you find yourself repressing your anger and arguments for fear of upsetting people? These are indicators that you might be a low-maintenance individual. This implies that you don’t place or demarcate boundaries effectively and allow people to violate them with impudence. You are always fearing irritation or making the other person feel distressed. These traits, while admirable in smaller quantities, can serve to complicate life for you nonetheless. There are many who might consider this label to be a compliment, but you shouldn’t take this lightly. There are subtle signs that tell of a person’s “low maintenance” character. Read on and learn more about it.
Taking it Easy Even When it Isn’t
You are the kind of person who says “it’s fine” to everything, even when things are anything but. You prioritize maintaining the peace over everything else, even when it means you have to keep quiet about any injustice or offense committed towards you. This is unhealthy, as it only nurtures resentment.
Never Asking for Help
You don’t believe in asking others for help and instead are quite confident in your own ability. However, this even extends to instances where you secretly wish someone would help you out. But that can’t be done unless you ask, a task laden with trepidation and adversity for your personality.
Not Wanting to Bother People
You are the kind of person who doesn’t believe in bothering anyone. You are constantly apologizing, making people feel at ease, facilitating them in every regard, and not asking for favors or even sending an urgent text. It is as if you are apologizing for even existing.
You Don’t Want to Appear Clingy
You don’t want people to think that you are becoming too attached, or clingy if you will. That is why you don’t solicit or ask for care, affection, consideration, or reassurance from others. You have forgotten that asking for these things makes you human, not overly attached.
You Act as the Emotional Caretaker in Relationships
You are the designated emotional caretaker in your relationships. You are constantly undermining or belittling your needs, desires, and comfort for the sake of your partner’s. You enter a relationship searching for love but end up playing the role of the therapist far too often.
Being Treated Well Makes You Uncomfortable
You are the kind to feel suspicious and awkward when someone treats you with sincerity and care. You have always prided yourself on being a giver, and it feels super uneasy when you are on the receiving end.
You Avoid Confrontation
You are always minimizing your discomfort and resentment. You don’t want to be forced into a confrontation at all costs. You would rather put on an appearance of the chill and calm individual than be called “petulant,” “angry,” or the profoundly feared “difficult.”
You Don’t Believe in Setting Boundaries
You don’t believe in properly delineating boundaries and instead consider them selfish. You think telling others about your triggers and mentioning boundaries is rude. So, you stay silent, even when people trod over your boundaries with open impudence or defiance.
You Try to be Overly Flexible
You don’t ask others for help, and you don’t explicitly state your needs. You try to be flexible and acclimate to what the other person suggests or says. You should know that this isn’t flexibility but rather the fear of rejection that guides your actions.
You are Proud of Being “Low Effort”
You are the kind of person who never asks for anything. You don’t care if anyone gives you gifts, surprises you with something pleasant, or gives you special treatment. You like it and wrongly believe that people will like it when you make it easier for them to love you. This is terribly wrong and merely makes you look like a pushover, one who will settle for less than he’s worth and will not gripe about it at all.
You Keep Yourself Small to Maintain the Peace
You deflect insults, joke, and generally try to be chill even in the face of a verbal onslaught. You belittle and disparage yourself solely for keeping the peace alive. You might quietly disagree with the other person but won’t show or express it.
You Don’t Concern Yourself with Red Flags
You are the kind of person who deliberately ignores red flags because, per your beliefs, no one is perfect. You, therefore, endure inconsistencies, neglect, and even repressed communication in your relationships and never ask for more, as it would make you appear too demanding.
You Try not to Show Disappointment
You are the type of person who does his level best to not express any disappointment when people let you down. You do get hurt when people forget about plans or your important days or ignore you. Yet, you don’t show or express your resentment or inform them of the disappointment out of fear of offending them.
You Don’t Know What you Want Anymore
You have spent a long time trying to acclimate to people’s demands and preferences. As a result, you are no longer sure of what you want or prefer anymore. Your own desires and ambitions have become peripheral, blurry, and unimportant.
You are too Independent
You rely on yourself and value your independence. However, you use this independence as a shield for protecting yourself from depending on others. This independence is also a curse, as it prevents you from calling on others even when you want to
You Minimize Affection or Compliments
You minimize any praise or affection people impart on you. You usually utilize humor to deflect this praise and downplay it. You don’t want to appear too vulnerable, as it makes you feel exposed and weak.
Final Thoughts
Being low maintenance can be great, but only when done in moderation. Delving too deeply into this quality can spell doom for your own needs and well-being. You deserve to be better, loved, and appreciated. Start building your resolve, speak up for your boundaries, and start asking for more reciprocity and respect from those around you. It will be better for you in the long term.
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