Women donโt think much of men when they are young and in their prime. Their beauty is prominent, and their whole life is ahead of them. They have plenty of suitors, men who want to take them out and praise them for their splendor and personality. That is why women tend to treat men as weak, materialistic, selfish, and emotionally immature. They think that they donโt need men and can live out their lives without having one by their sides. However, reality hits them like a truck when they reach their 60s. They realize that a quiet life, a quiet home, and deep loneliness are all that are waiting for them at the end of this journey. Where they once derided and despised men with a passion, they are now contrite and regret their actions. Read on and learn more about the harsh truths that women in their 60s learn after having belittled men all their lives.
They Confused Independence with Superiority
Women learn later on that what they considered to be superiority stemming from their independence was misplaced. She wanted equality but ended up belittling men and trivializing their presence. They made men an unnecessary component of her life, and now they regret this decision.
They Wore the Emotional Armor for Too Long
Men want to connect with women and get to know their vulnerabilities, hopes, and dreams. These strong, independent females wore an emotional armor to block off all such attempts from men. They wanted to appear invulnerable till it finally dissuaded the men from trying to get in or be heard. Now they want them to listen, but it is far too late.
They Mocked what They Secretly Coveted
These strong, independent women condescended to and ridiculed other women for choosing a man, falling in love, and pursuing the marital life. This mocking was actually a projection of their own deeply rooted desires, and only now, when they are in the twilight of their life, do they realize it.
They Treated Every Man Like a Disappointment
These women were high-strung and utterly pedantic in their younger years. No matter how good a man who approached her may have been, they had set him up to fail in their minds. They had stringent and unbelievable standards that no man could meet. This cynical approach destroyed any chance at love, and now they have ended up alone.
They Mistook Kindness for Weakness
These women considered men who were chivalrous, well-mannered, and soft-spoken as weak and unbefitting of affection. They wanted true, masculine men who exuded alpha energy. They werenโt looking for emotional connection but rather the sweet, fleeting rush of excitement, a choice they now sorely regret.
They Always Wanted to be Right
These women were domineering in that they always wanted to be right and have the last word. Their dominant attitude seemed pleasing to them as they equated it with intelligence. They wanted to win every argument at any cost, even when it brought them falling headlong into the crevice of solitude in their 60s.
They Laughed at Menโs Emotions
These women were prone to ridiculing and mocking the men who opened up. They derided the men who expressed their inner thoughts and ambitions to them. They thought, in that moment, that they were being oh so clever and ingenious. It is only now that they realize that those men were hoping to form a bond with them, one defined by empathy and understanding. They lament over the fact that they rejected their advances and spurned their advances.
They Let Feminism Get the Best of Them
These women were ardent subscribers to the tenets of feminism. They truly believed they were better, stronger, and more capable than men. They didnโt realize it when it became their entire personality and implanted in them a deep hate for men. This caused them to push away every man who approached them. They thought in that moment, โWho needs men?โ Well, in their desolate 60s, they have finally realized that it was them; they needed men.
They Made Men Replaceable
These women truly believed that they could get whatever man they wanted. That is because they were young and beautiful, and there was no shortage of men around them. It led them to belittle men that did date them. They pounced on every opportunity, no matter how miniscule, to make these men realize that they were replaceable. They were made to believe that the next one was waiting in the shadows as soon as these lovely ladies were done with them. Well, youth and beauty have a weird way of running out, and so did the number of men wanting to date these vain women who have no one to rely on in their 60s.
They thought Love Should Happen on their terms
These women wanted to be loved, but only when it was their choice. They wanted men to struggle and put in an effort, but only if they permitted it. They didnโt want to compromise but rather to control everything in love. Well, love isnโt something that can be controlled or conditioned per your choice. It is spontaneous and unbridled and all those attempts at controlling its begetting are what brought these women to this sorry state in their 60s.
They Measured Men by Their Mistakes
These women didnโt pay heed to or appreciate the effort men put into wooing them. They were fixated on the flaws and mistakes. They wanted perfection from those men whose only crime was trying to win their affections. These actions may have been imperfect, but at least they were sincere, a realization that now incessantly bites at the minds of these 60-plus women.
They thought Loneliness was Strength
These women stuck to the lone wolf act in their youth. They wrongly believed that being single and alone was a sign of their independence and strength. It was a resolute stand against male chauvinism and a celebration of their femininity. But they realize now that it was all for naught, merely a charade, a farce that they had so pridefully bought into.
They Waited Too Long to Apologize
These women were prideful and werenโt exactly forthcoming when it came to apologizing. They knew in their hearts that they were in the wrong but they never admitted it. They let the men in their lives simmer in resentment and bitterness and didnโt apologize for the hurt that they inflicted. They even laughed at their pitiable state and it only served to push those good men away. Now, in their 60s, these women realize that they were in the wrong and should have said sorry. At least, that way, they probably wouldnโt be alone now.
They Realized They Didnโt Provide What They Demanded
These women wanted emotional connection, maturity, and communication from men. However, the ironic part is that they never deigned to accord it to the men in the first place. Quite the contradictory approach, and one reeking of hubris, a realization that dawned too late for these 60-plus women.
They Didnโt Respect Men
Now, at the end, these women have finally realized that they didnโt lose men because they didnโt love them. They actually lost them because they didnโt make these men feel respected. Love can survive the greatest of trials, but respect is fragile. It can only take so much of a beating and after the wringer these women put menโs respect through, there was little wonder that they left.
Final Thoughts
Women in their 60s donโt need to wallow in self-pity. Instead, they should focus on introspecting and deliberating in retrospect as to how they reached this sorry state. They should impart their wisdom and experiences to the younger women so that they donโt end up making the same mistakes. That is the only silver lining in the miserable cloud that they have turned their life into.
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