It isn’t easy to discern red flags effectively with some women. That is because they say all the right things, act kindly, praise you, smile at the right time, and appear tender and caring on the surface. However, inside, things are quite different, for these women are manipulative, conniving, and utterly dedicated to making your life difficult and replete with predicaments. They don’t do it out of some nefarious agenda or compulsion; rather, they do it because that is just the way they are wired. Read on and learn about the behaviors that reveal a woman isn’t a good person no matter how charming and lovely she acts.
Her Kindness Comes with an Expiration Date
She is the kind of person who will act all cordial and warm when things are proceeding her way. But she will grow cold, distant, and utterly dismissive of you the moment she feels like she’s being called out or challenged by you in the relationship.
Always Having a Moral High Ground
She is the kind of person who makes arguments feel like trials and interrogations instead of honest, open discussions. She doesn’t assess things fairly and judges herself as being the victim in all scenarios and outcomes.
Rewriting Events
She is the kind of person who doesn’t balk at rewriting past events to benefit herself. She will leave you doubting yourself as to what really transpired in the past and wondering whether you are the reason why things went astray.
Using Soft Words to Deliver Sharp Blow
She is the kind of person who wraps her jokes and mocking under the guise of being concerned for your well-being. Her brutal and cutting blows are hidden under the mask of constructive criticism, intended to make you look as bad as they make you feel inside.
Avoiding Direct Conflict
She is the kind of person who eschews direct conflict yet still manages to create sufficient emotional tension in the relationship. She won’t address issues or engage in open and honest communication. Instead, she will sigh, sulk, and act all detached and distant from you. It will force you to pursue her and try to solve the problems that she hasn’t even deigned to delineate.
Always Needing to be Seen as Good
She is the kind of person who has a chronic need to appear as the good person, one unblemished and untainted, in the relationship. Her image matters more to her than reality. She would rather protect how others perceive her than repair the trust and issues that have overrun her bond. For her, love and affection are secondary to image and personality.
Making you Earn Basic Respect
She is the kind of person who only acts kind, affectionate, and patient towards you when she wants something from you. She accords these attributes as a reward in exceptional cases and not unconditionally in the relationship. You can’t rely on her for these qualities even when you are at your lowest.
Collecting Emotional Debts
She is the kind of person who is wont to bring up past favors, compromises, and sacrifices during disagreements and instances of conflict. She uses these favors as leverage and evidence that you somehow owe her your unquestioned and unequivocal obedience because of them.
Getting Defensive When Held Accountable
She is the kind of person who treats even gentle feedback as a personal attack. She turns your innocuous and curious remarks into accusations of attacking her, being ungrateful for what she brings to the relationship, or being utterly heartless and apathetic towards her. This excessive defensiveness reflects her true, deplorable nature vividly.
Creating Dependency instead of Partnership
She is the kind of person who gradually, yet subtly, positions herself as being irreplaceable in the relationship. She makes you feel intensely dependent on her and discourages you from acting independently. She inhibits your freedom and decision-making and even drains you of all confidence.
Acting Empathetic When It’s Convenient
She is the kind of person who acts all empathetic and kind when it is convenient for her. She will try to understand your feelings, hear you out, and act all caring and tender when she needs something from you. Once she gets it, then it is back to being cold and indifferent for her.
Using Silence to Win
She is the kind of person who doesn’t shrink from using silent treatment as a punishment when things aren’t going per her plan in the relationship. She will shut down, refuse to communicate, and emotionally withdraw from everything until you get all anxious and apologize to her for whatever violation or indiscretion you committed.
Competing Instead of Supporting
She is the kind of person who finds your success to be threatening instead of uplifting. She will constantly berate you and belittle your achievements instead of supporting or encouraging you. Praise isn’t something that you can depend on her for, but castigation, sarcasm, and pessimism, those you will receive in plenty.
Playing Innocent after Causing Harm
She is the kind of person who acts all confused and sensitive and claims to be misunderstood when you confront her. She can cause all the harm that she wants or can to the relationship and yet refuses to take accountability or responsibility for her improper acts.
Feeling Smaller Over Time
The clearest sign of her being a terrible person is when she makes you feel inferior and less sure of yourself as time goes on. She makes you feel like you are inadequate, constantly belittles you, and makes you feel like you have lost significant potential over time while being with her.
Final Thoughts
A good woman will never need to prove her stellar character through words or actions. You will just know it when you are with her. However, a mendacious woman will always end up showing her true colors no matter what she does or how sweetly she acts around you.
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