Every woman walks into a date with a few hopes that she doesn’t voice. She might be the most confident or low-maintenance gal on the block but she will be silently wishing that their date does some certain things. These things do a far better job of getting a woman engaged and into you than smooth pickup lines or a fancy dinner ever could. These actions exude sincerity, connection, and effort, all traits that women fall hard for. Read on and learn more about the things that women secretly wish men would do on a date.
Showing up With a Plan
Women love it when a man shows up to the date with a plan. They love it when he takes the lead, makes the dinner plans, makes the arrangements, and even keeps a substitute idea on hand in case the original reservations don’t pan out. They see it as an attention to detail and realization of their value.
Greeting With Confidence
Men who greet women with confidence and sincerity are the ones that truly stand out. Women love it when they are received warmly and genuinely by their date. The body language, comfortable smile, and cordiality speak of their date’s fervor, even if he doesn’t say anything.
Sincere Compliments
Women wish men would compliment them on something more than their appearance. They want to be genuinely complimented on something deeper, like their sense of humor or energy. A man who takes the effort to make a genuine compliment about it is the one they wind up liking and remembering.
Being Completely Present
Women want a man to be completely in the moment when he’s with them. They love it when he gives them his undivided attention. A man who constantly checks his phone or gets distracted by his surroundings signals insecurity and insincerity, traits that turn women off. They are attracted to attention, while distraction repels them.
Asking Deeper Questions
Just like compliments, women want to be asked about profound and deeper details. They want to be asked about more than her job or hobbies. They want to be questioned about what makes them happy or laugh. They want to be questioned about what makes her, her, and not the monotonous or trite approach of asking what she does or likes.
Really Listening
A man who does more than just nod in the affirmative is the guy that women dig. They want their date to be more engaging and attentive in listening. He should intently listen to what she is saying and make the follow-up queries. A woman feels attracted to a man who truly hears and sees her. It boosts the emotional connection and leads to the formation of some serious chemistry.
Politeness
A woman likes a man who is polite, but she likes him even more when he exercises this trait with everyone he meets. They especially love it when a man treats those that can do nothing to him with unbridled kindness and geniality, like the waiter, Uber driver, doorman, and so on. This shows her that yours is a stellar character, which is imbued with immense kindness and empathy.
Making Her Laugh
A woman loves to have a good time, where she can laugh and exchange jokes with her date. She likes a man who understands the vibe and cracks jokes according to it. Making lighthearted jokes and teasing her playfully; that’s what a woman goes for. What she abhors is excessive joking, criticism disguised as teasing, and generally being a nuisance.
Practicing Chivalry
A man who opens doors, pulls out the chair for her, accompanies her to her car, and makes sure that she gets home safely; these traits might seem a bit outdated and obscure for modern times. However, women love them and are attracted to such men who act like true gentlemen.
Matches Her Vibes
A man who ascertains her vibe and matches it effectively is extremely attractive. He should know when she is being playful, open, or reserved. He should adjust his own energy and reaction to adapt accordingly.
Being Honest About What They Want
Women quietly desire clarity and openness. They want a man to be open and honest about what he is looking for in a relationship. Whether he wants something temporary, serious, or moderate, he should express it openly. Women like it and regard it as a sign of maturity and strength.
Keeping the Conversation Balanced
Women don’t like men who drone on and on on a date. Monologues or one-sided responses make the date feel like an ordeal, and women really don’t like it. They want a man who knows how to keep the conversation balanced. They like it when he encourages them to participate and keep the stage for discussion open equally.
Ending the Night with Closure
Women don’t like men who keep things obfuscated and mysterious at the end of a date. They love it when a man lends much-needed closure to the night. Men who walk them to the door and follow up with a text about how they felt or whether they want to see her again are the good ones in women’s books.
Make Her Feel Special
Men should take the time and effort to make women feel cherished and special on a date. They should make it so that she feels like the only woman in the world for them. Men who shower women with attention, cherish them, and make them feel like time has stopped are the ones who will be remembered fondly.
Final Thoughts
Women don’t want nor are they expecting perfection from their dates. They want them to be present, attentive, and willing to impart effort and emotional intelligence into the night. The small gestures are what really tend to stand out for women and for men, it enhances the chances of a potential romance blossoming.
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